Female Question, Male Answer....

[tsameti]

Because it's our biological nature.
To invite someone into your bed is to tear down a wall, a wall that we as men need to keep our animal nature in check and our hands off you.

It's a gesture of intimacy, or even just trust when a woman tells you it's OK to share a bed. She's letting down her emotional defenses: 'the bubble' if you could call it that. There's a perfectly acceptable couch in the other room, to invite a guy into bed and expect them to behave is... odd.

Heck, that's more closeness than most relationships or hook-ups start from.

[Frost]

You know what, I am not even going to question that.

[tsameti]

Hold on now.
I don't necessarily think we're talking about throwing mixed signals. I think in this case there's a girl, and a boy who for one reason or another she would not terribly mind hooking up with.

This guy never really makes a move, no serious advances. Then the one time they sleep in the same bed, suddenly he gets amorous. I think the question Bella raised is: why is it that a guy who won't ever make a pass under usual circumstances suddenly get frisky when you lie down.

So Bella has to wonder, Nikki you pansy you haven't been romantic all night, why now? Why is the sleeping part the thing that gives you ideas? It's a fair question... there's just a very good answer.

[Frost]

Ok slow down here. First, about the only touching if he's cute thing, that was a joke.

No one is allowed to touch without permission. I don't care who you are. (ask Dred)

Second, I disagree that it is ok for a man to assume that just because a woman invites a man to sleep in her bed, he can have wandering hands or wandering anything else for that matter.

Sorry but, you need to ask. Not assume.